I was listening to Tony Robbins’s podcast and one sentence truly resonated with me, “The goal setting process is a process of creating your reality and shaping your future NOW”. It felt so true that I say it to myself every day.
The truth is, most people know they should set goals and they should write them down but not many people are doing it and not many are successful with manifesting their goals. Why?
There is a body of research that shows that ONLY 10% of people know what they want, and only 1% have it written. Think about it: if you don’t know where you are going, you are lost before you start.
Studies show that when you write your goals down, you increase the probability of manifesting them in your life by 47%, and when we share it with others, you increase it to 75%. That is why the first thing I do when I start working with new clients is get them to become clear about their desires.
The vision needs to be so vivid that they can feel it, see it, nearly smell it and touch it, and through that, they can start living it.
TODAY I WANT TO SHARE WITH YOU 7 SECRETS TO SUCCESSFUL GOAL SETTING AND HAVING THE BEST YEAR EVER.
Before I talk about the 7 secrets, there are a few key elements that you might keep in mind that can slow down or prevent you from manifesting what you want.
The law of familiarity. When you are too familiar with something, you can take it for granted. Many people have heard about the concept of setting goals, but they never took the time to understand how it works or assume that it won’t work for them.
You forget about your goals. Even if you write your goals down you often forget about them within the first few days of January. Writing your goals once a year and looking at them a year later will not bring you results either.
You don’t believe that setting goals and writing desires will actually work for you.
AND, you don’t connect, review, and practice them daily.
So, what are the secrets of successful goal setting?
Here are the secrets to make your goals your new reality.
7 SECRETS TO SUCCESSFUL GOAL SETTING AND HAVING THE BEST YEAR EVER.
STEP 1. BE CLEAR AS TO WHAT YOU WANT
There are many coaching styles and techniques, but most agree to this one principle; the first step to achieving your goals is clarifying what you want.
I speak with many people who say, I know what I want, but when I ask for how long that was a dream of theirs, often the answer is, “as long as I can remember.”
And here we come to one of the critical elements of a successful goal-setting.
It works best if you take your goals out of your head, where they are contradicted by daily to do lists, clutter, and negative thoughts, and put them onto paper.
Experts in neuroscience explain that “Writing things down doesn’t just help you remember, it makes your mind more efficient by helping you focus on the truly important stuff. And your goals absolutely should qualify as truly important stuff.”
I see this truth in my coaching practice daily. Many of my clients before they work with me know what they want, usually, they want to make more money in their business, work with more ideal clients, and have more satisfaction and ease in their personal and professional life. Still, despite knowing what they want, they don’t have results.
Writing down your goals is the first step toward manifestation, but it is not the only step.
STEP 2. UNDERSTAND YOUR “WHY”
Simon Sinek, the author of the famous TED TALK and author of “Start with the WHY: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone To Take Action”, explores the answers to a fundamental question: “Why are some people and organizations more innovative, more influential, and more profitable than others?”
He came out with an idea of the Golden Circle, a theory that explains that the most successful people like Martin Luther King Jr., Steve Jobs, and the Wright Brothers had little in common, but the key to their success was that they all started with WHY.
So, WHY do you want to make $100K, one million dollars or more in your business?
WHY are you motivated and inspired to make money, be a better person, and grow and expand?
WHY do you want to have particular possessions and experiences?
WHY do you even want to wake up in the morning?
When you tap into your true WHY, reaching your goals comes with more ease and becomes more effortless.
As one of my coaches says, “Money goes where there is a purpose”. If you desire to make money in your business, ask yourself the critical question: What is the money’s purpose?
When you start with WHY achieving your goals has a deeper meaning and purpose.
STEP 3. PRACTICE YOUR PRINCIPLES DAILY
Have you seen a video ad for the Under Armour starting with “It’s cold outside” and showing Lindsey Vonn training early in the morning in the cold weather? If you take the greatest athletes in the world, all of them are already the best in their category, yet they spend several hours a day, every day, practicing and training. Their daily practice is what makes them the best!
If you want to master anything in your life, you need to practice it until it becomes second nature to you.
The best coaches in the world teach basic principles, which most, we all know, but the magic and results happen when we step from saying, “I know how to do it” into the application and repetition.
“There is no glory in practice, but without practice, there is no glory.”
STEP 4. ADOPT THE PROCESS OF CONSCIOUS CREATION
I recently came across a recording by one of my favorite coaches and spiritual teachers, Esther Hicks, who talks about goal setting. She advises to “Set your goal with the right scope in mind.” The key to setting your goals successfully is to focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.
It sounds simple, but when I speak to people and ask potential clients that question, very often they give me a long list of what they don’t want. The way I bring them back to their desires is… so, now that you’ve told me all that you don’t want, what is that you want?
To give you an example, instead of saying, “I don’t want to be in debt, work so hard, and not make money,” reframe your goal to, “I want to make $$$$ with ease and work with a team that supports me”.
Many people often practice saying and identifying with what they don’t want instead of what is that they do want because of:
a) habitual thinking and speaking
b) fear
c) lack of awareness that our thoughts and words create our reality
When you refrain from your mindset to be guided by what you truly want, you move faster in making your goals and desires your reality.
STEP 5. BE HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU HAVE… AND BE READY FOR MORE!
That is the motto that I live by since I’ve discovered the power of goal and desire setting.
It’s simple: You should never stop wishing, dreaming, and wanting more. Creating new goals is in our nature. As humans, we need to advance; that is how this world moves forward.
STEP 6. ACHIEVE BOTH SUCCESS AND FULFILLMENT
As the famous saying goes, “success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.”
Sometimes when you achieve your goal, you can feel a dose of disappointment and a nagging question in your mind,” Is this all there is?”, “I thought it would be different.”, “I thought I’ll feel happier.”
Achieving success (the “What”) without achieving fulfillment (the “Why”) means you have not found your true purpose.
When you are about to achieve your goal in your business or in your personal life, you might feel proud and energized, and that is the best time to both… set a new goal and reaffirm your whys!
Without growth, expansion in my life, I feel stagnant. Setting and achieving my goals and desires based on my true purpose brings energy, life, and bliss into my life.
My life and business goals always make me grow, learn, expand, and live my true purpose. I feel that I also contribute to making other people’s lives better as part of the process.
STEP 7. IT IS ALL ABOUT WHO YOU BECOME IN THE PROCESS.
I still remember my first investment in a coaching program. It was $7500 and happened shortly after I came to the US. My daughter was in college, and I did not have savings available to pay for the program. I was scared. I decided to put the payment on 3 different credit cards, so the charges don’t overlap. Even though the investment didn’t immediately itself pay back in money, this experience was the catalyst that changed all aspects of my life long term; my health, spirituality, relationships, my body, and finally led me to a new career in life.
After years of living a status quo existence, putting my desires on the back burner. And allowing people, circumstances to define my life, I became clear about ME and how I want to live my life. Probably for the first time in my life, I felt alive, energized, happier, and started living on my terms.
In my life, my growth and expansion are my top priorities; if I don’t grow, I feel like I’m dying.”
If you are reading my article, it means that you too want to grow and live an extraordinary life on your terms—a life that’s worth living for you!
That is why I invite you to ask yourself: What do you REALLY want?
IF YOU READY TO STEP INTO THE NEXT LEVEL OF SUCCESS, FINANCIAL FREEDOM, AND LIVING YOUR TRUE PURPOSE IN 2021, REACH OUT TO ME TODAY.
Schedule your FREE CONSULTATION and let’s talk about how I can support you in getting clear on your business, lifestyle and financial objectives.
YOU DESERVE IT!
Love,
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
RENIA M. ORR IS AN INTERNATIONAL BUSINESS STRATEGIST, SUCCESS COACH, SPEAKER, AND THE FOUNDER OF LDV ELITE.
SHE IS A SPEAKER FOR FORTUNE 500 COMPANIES, APPEARS ON NBC TV AND OTHER TELEVISION PROGRAMMING, AND IS AN ACCOMPLISHED AUTHOR.
